February 2012
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“I wanted to be pushed through her door and shoved to the floor knees first, my...”
– Lidia Yuknavitch, The Chronology of Water
Feb 27th
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ListenSexytime Jam of the Week, No. 9: Broken Social...
Feb 27th
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Feb 26th
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rattlingbone asked: Whilst in the midst of the start of a sexy time session with a man I've been bedding for a month or so now, I was giving him head. He proceeded to guide my hand towards his scrotum, & after a few minutes, moved my hand to his anus. It didn't go any further than that but I think he wanted it to. I am trying to reign in the taboo ideas & am grateful he felt comfortable enough to...
Feb 25th
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Feb 25th
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“Desire: yes: the sudden knowledge, like coming out of ‘flu’, that the body is...”
– Adrienne Rich, Re-forming the Crystal
Feb 24th
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Feb 24th
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Feb 23rd
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Anonymous asked: i've been thinking about how to word this without coming across as attacking - often when you talk about open relationships, it seems as though you are of the idea that monogamy is not at all plausible or possible - almost that you are defending polyamory by pointing out all that is wrong with monogamy. do you think that monogamy is entirely implausible? or that people in happy monogamous...
Feb 23rd
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ListenSexytime Jam of the Week, No. 8: The Roots ft....
Feb 17th
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Feb 17th
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Is it still a walk of shame if you look fabulous?
youarenotyou: mcgoats: sylviaandherfigtree: we call that the STRIDE OF PRIDE around these parts “yeah, that’s right, i just got fucked. get it.” never has a walk of shame been shameful for me. it’s always “uh huh yes i did that and it was great” ^ 
Feb 16th
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Feb 15th
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Feb 15th
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Feb 15th
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“Not only don’t I mind not being monogamous, I’m at a loss to understand what...”
– Sirenita Lake, “Why I Hate Monogamy” (So ends my quoting spree. But can you blame me? This essay is pitch-perfect.)
Feb 15th
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“The statistics on who’s having extramarital sex — 60% of men, 40% of women — lead to the inevitable conclusion that any married person is as likely as not to have sex with someone else during their marriage. Roughly half of all married people qualify as strayers, adulterers and faithless betrayers. Half of just about everybody is going to commit what is perceived as a...
Feb 15th
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“I have known people, mainly women since more of my friends are women, who were happy in a relationship until they discovered that their partner had made love with someone else. Though nothing changed and she was satisfied with the relationship, this bit of information fundamentally and retroactively altered how she felt about it. The whole marriage was now seen as one big lie. Why? It...
Feb 15th
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Feb 15th
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What Do Women Want? | Kim Addonizio
I want a red dress. I want it flimsy and cheap, I want it too tight, I want to wear it until someone tears it off me. I want it sleeveless and backless, this dress, so no one has to guess what’s underneath. I want to walk down the street past Thrifty’s and the hardware store with all those keys glittering in the window, past Mr. and Mrs. Wong selling day-old donuts in their café, past...
Feb 15th
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Anonymous asked: you have an absolutely delicious body, what are the chances you would start showing it off more?
Feb 15th
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Feb 14th
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Anonymous asked: "This here is one of my favorite activities." I would let you do that to me any day.
Feb 14th
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Feb 13th
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“It’s hard to love someone, and it’s hard to accept love in return. I...”
– Stephen Elliott (from today’s Daily Rumpus.)
Feb 13th
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Feb 13th
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Anonymous asked: Thank you for answering! It helped me feel better in a lot of ways, and even though I still have a lot to work through, reading your advice made me feel very relieved :) I'm glad I talked to you. Also, to answer you question, I don't know why I feel guilty. I guess I feel like I'm betraying my morals, but when I think about it, those morals aren't even mine, they're my...
Feb 13th
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Feb 13th
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sadie-hawkins asked: I love you. The response you gave to the girl who wrote about her parents telling her that sex is wrong was perfect. I wish that more people could accept and have the same outlook as you do.
Feb 11th
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Feb 11th
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Feb 11th
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Feb 11th
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Anonymous asked: I was raised by very religious, conservative parents who repeatedly hammered into my head "Sex is a sin. You should only have sex after marriage, because premarital sex is shameful and disgusting" -- or something along those lines. Up until I was about 17, I had no sex drive, so it didn't bother me, but now that I'm 19, I've realized that I'm an extremely sexual girl....
Feb 11th
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Anonymous asked: (pt2) but the problem is, I just can't. I've been told that sex is shameful so many times that every time I have thoughts of wanting to have sex with someone, I end up feeling horrible and guilty, like I'm a terrible person. I really don't know what to do. How can I stop feeling like my sex drive is something to be ashamed of? It's really horrible -- I can't go past...
Feb 11th
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Feb 10th
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“The question is not art versus pornography or sexuality versus censorship or any...”
– Jeanette Winterson on Henry Miller
Feb 9th
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Feb 9th
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Dear Coke Talk: On why it's okay to feel your... →
dearcoketalk: Dear Coquette, What’s the best way to disassociate sex from emotion? Is it even a good idea to do? I can’t bring myself to have sex with someone unless I have an emotional connection with them, even if it’s a small one. Is this normal?  Disassociating sex from emotion is a horrible idea. Actually, disassociating from your emotions in general is a horrible idea. That’s the kind of...
Feb 9th
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Feb 9th
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Feb 9th
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Feb 9th
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Feb 7th
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Feb 7th
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Feb 7th
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ListenSexytime Jam of the Week, No. 7: Portishead -...
Feb 7th
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Feb 7th
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“As I’ve come out over the years about different things, I’ve come to understand...”
– Jiz Lee — “How to Come Out Like A Porn Star”. Jiz wrote this in terms of coming out as a porn star, being kinky, queer and having a trans* identity, but this can resonate to those who come out about anything. Also, Jiz Lee is awesome. (via sexpositive)
Feb 7th
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Anonymous asked: us dollars. thongs. wear them. yes to sh charges.
Feb 7th
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Anonymous asked: dont sell that guy your panties... just post way more pictures of you wearing only them. pretty please. sincerely - anonymous girl tumblrerer who saw that pic of you that you posted and had to put her hand in her undies
Feb 7th
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“I am a sensuous being. I express my sexuality fully and freely in all I do. I...”
– Sacral chakra affirmation (via serpentpriest) This is too is something that is a struggle…To be a sensual person that exudes sexual energy, rather I choose to or not. And to be accepting of that. The idea that being a sexy woman is okay….is hard sometimes, when I am that woman. (via queennubian)
Feb 6th
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